a child learns: owning your life / action

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{Caroline's test kitchen}

If you're just joining us for the owning your life series, start here.  If you missed the last segment of planning, catch up here.

 

Action.

This is where the dreaming and planning merge together.  Where everything you want for you and your family takes place and becomes a reality.  Let me show you how I take priorities and turn them into tangible action.

 

Once I have my priorities then it really comes down to planning the action.  Here are some tips for planning the action:

  • Have a weekly/monthly calendar.  Whether it is a calendar you write on or calendar on your phone/iPad, you need a place to be consistent and accountable.

 

  • Set a consistent time each week to fill in your calendar with your priorities.  If you don't, your dreams will always stay dreams.

For me, it is always Sunday night that I look over my priorities, lists of things I need/want to get done that I've been adding to all week, list of things the kids want to do, and begin filling them in to our calendar.  This is a very relaxing, enjoyable time of the week for me.  I have all of my goals, lists, ideas, tasks, and appointments that I merge into the upcoming week.

  • Schedule singular events while repeating weekly events on your calendar.  

While it is obvious that you'll put one-time events on your calendar (make gingerbread houses with the kids) you also want to decide what priorities you want to keeping happening regularly, something that you'll need to schedule as a  weekly, repeating event (take kids to the library).  On most digital calendars you can select an event to repeat weekly, monthly, or even daily.

  • Keep a running list of random thoughts, tasks, and ideas you don't want to forget.    This is to clear your brain.                                                                                                              

One of the most important ways to be happy and working daily towards something bigger is to be able to take action without all of the clutter on your mind.  Keeping a running list of everything on your mind truly gets rid of anxiety of things you need to get done or remember and lets you actually focus on that day's action.  It's a proven fact that you work better, think better, and are more at peace when you consistently write everything down so your mind can stop continually bringing it back to your remembrance.

I scan over my running list each week to see if any pressing tasks need to be taken care of that week.

 

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{Remnants from sewing day last week}

Here is a random sampling of some of my priorities for this fall:

Personal:

  • reaching my year-long personal health goals by the holidays and rewarding myself 
  • thoroughly decluttering/reorganizing our basement storage room along with some smaller organizational projects around the house (cupboards and such)
  • being more on top of making/baking our snacks, condiments, dressings, etc., and stocking up the freezer with soups for the winter
  • consistently keeping a journal
  • seriously having some sort of date night with Bobby each weekend (even if it means sharing a dessert and watching a Cake Boss or Top Gear rerun!)
  • have fun with my kids everyday--i.e. stop trying to control situations and trust my children more

Family:

  • round out our Civil War exploring with a trip to Gettysburg
  • master a few more sewing skills with the girls
  • help Caroline start selling/shipping her Bakie's shortbread
  • add to and enjoy playing math board games as a family

 

 

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{The weekly job chart}

 

Here are those same priorities with details for action in bold.

 

Personal:

 

  • reaching my year-long personal health goals by the holidays and rewarding myself 

           weekly:  review written goal and reward and assess progress--make adjustments where needed

           daily:  exercise 3x a week, stick to my eating plan and be accountable daily

  • thoroughly decluttering/reorganizing our basement storage room along with some smaller organizational projects around the house (cupboards and such)

           weekly: pick one major house project from my list and schedule it in to my week--preferably at night

           daily: keep up established daily job chart with kids and I fill in the cracks of daily tidying

  • being more on top of making/baking our snacks, condiments, dressings, etc., and stocking up the freezer with soups, etc., for the winter

           weekly: decide what is needed/wanted to make/bake that week based on our running list and family's interest

           daily: do making/baking on set, prescribed day that week--make sure to be prepared with ingredients before that day  

  • consistently keeping a journal

           daily: write a little in my journal most mornings during my quiet time after looking over the day's calendar

           keep a piece of paper on the fridge of funny things the kids say to add to throughout the week

  • seriously having some sort of date night with Bobby each weekend (even if it means sharing a dessert and watching a Cake Boss or Top Gear rerun!)

           weekly: schedule "date night" as a repeating event for every Friday night on my calendar and Bobby's

           start thinking mid week if we will will be going out, staying in, and start talking and brainstorming with Bobby towards the end of the week

  • have fun with my kids everyday--i.e. stop trying to control situations and trust my children more

           weekly: plan out the most important things and schedule them and leave the rest of our day open to fill in as we go

           daily: pray to let go more, assess how I'm feeling throughout the day--peaceful/happy to know if I'm accomplishing this 

 

 

Family:

 

  • round out our Civil War exploring with a trip to Gettysburg

           weekly: set the date for visiting Gettysburg and decide what activities the kids are wanting to do based on the Civil War each week

           daily: explore the Civil War through our library books, videos, and online resources--usually in the afternoon during quiet time

  • master some more sewing skills with the girls

           weekly: set aside a "sewing day" where we bring all the machine upstairs to the dining room to work together--group projects and individual

           daily: keep a list of what the girls are wanting to make and use it to know what we can sew each week

  • help Caroline start selling/shipping her Bakie's shortbread

           weekly: have a business meeting--Monday mornings--with Caroline each week to help her decide the next steps and schedule tasks

  • add to and enjoy playing math board games as a family

               weekly: schedule a repeating event in my calendar for a weekly family game night, preferably on a Friday night before bedtime

                             keep a list of the math/problem solving/strategy/other games I want for our family collection 

                             decide a game/homeschooling budget with Bobby and our regularity in adding to our collection

 

All of these details in bold above are the actions that I've been taking because they were singularly, intentionally, put into my calendar, then, acted upon.  I can see my progress and if there is a priority that isn't happening, I can start giving it attention when I'm ready.

I actually do more in my life and with my children now then back when I had only a few children.  It all comes down to knowing what I want, planning it out (which often requires being super creative and becoming an expert problem solver), and taking action.

 

I really hope you enjoyed and were somehow inspired by this owning your life series.  I'm so inspired by many of you that have contacted me over the years wanting more with your life, your days, and your mothering.  Many of you have taken an interest in homeschooling and aren't sure how to take the first step.  Many of you are so overwhelmed with all of the options of parenting styles, how to spend your day with your young kids, and this and that, that you may be afraid to even move, feeling overwhelmed by all of the choices out there.  To you I'd say be confident and do those bold things that you want for you and your family.  

This is an incredible time to be alive.  An incredible time to make our lives everything we've ever dreamed them to be.  Dream.  Plan.  Act.  You will never look back and wish for simpler days.  It will push you and change you in ways you never imagined and that is where your personal power lies.

I can't wait to hear of any steps you may be taking to fully owning your life.  For you are the only one capable of doing it and doing it beautifully.

 

More on the homeschooling series:

a child learns: owning your life / planning

a child learns: owning your life / dreaming

a child learns: trust yourself

a child learns: trust children

a child learns: the decision 

a child learns: the series

 

 the sleepy time gal